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As part of America’s commitment to read more in the 21st century, each month I will write a commentary with respect to issues that affect readers from a social, cultural and psychological viewpoint. This month’s submission is titled:


 
 

An Open Letter to Black America!

 “I’m Black, I don’t feel burdened by it and I don’t think it’s a huge responsibility. It’s part of who I am. It does not define me.” – Oprah Winfrey

To my African-American brothers and sisters, we are understandably angry about the problems we face. Nevertheless let's not forget what Dr. King and his followers fought so gallantly for. Frankly, from where I sit, I don't think they would approve of the negative attitude many of us have developed over the years. What does this behavior say anyway? Oh sure it gives some people a temporary sense of satisfaction. But that doesn't change anything, does it? And for those African-Americans who insist that our problems are over, now that we have a Black President. Are you serious? Do you really think President Obama can eliminate Black-on-Black crime, or alleviate the widening educational gap between White and Black students? No, one man can't do it all, but as a race working together, we can create miracles.

As a people we need to stand together. Aren't you tired of hearing that everything from race to is disenchantment is impeding our progress? That statement is NOT TRUE. In actuality we are keeping ourselves down by refusing to listen to reason. Let's stop putting each other down. Stop degrading each other. It's time to stand together as a race of BEAUTIFUL, RESILIENT AND PROUD AMERICANS. Similarly, we must patronize and support Black businesses as well as teach positive aspects of cultural enrichment to our children. And speaking of learning, we must learn about the struggles and great strides of our ancestors. Thus, we will be compelled to stand tall and proud. So, let's make a pact to alleviate the quarreling, and work toward building a better life, not just for ourselves but for future generations. Now that we've familiarized ourselves with the problems, can a practical solution be far behind?

Now before I conclude this commentary, I would like to quote the last 6 lines from Malcolm X’s eulogy, delivered by the late Ossie Davis onFebruary 27, 1965. He said: “Consigning these mortal remains to earth, the common mother of all, secure in the knowledge that what we place in the ground is no more now a man - but a seed - which, after the winter of our discontent, will come forth again to meet us. And we will know him then for what he was and is - a Prince - our own black shining Prince! - who didn't hesitate to die, because he loved us so." Black America, if Malcolm loved us, why in the name of all things humanitarian, can’t we love ourselves?

 


Later Homie!

 

 

 

Will the hip-hop culture be in existence  50 years from now? That depends on whether the  homies or  homeboyz  choose to remain in their current state, or make dramatic changes  not only to ensure their survival, but  transform themselves into men who’re  capable  of  becoming   an  asset to their community and  society in general.

 

 

 

The future: the year 2061-- Browsing through textbooks,  the  students in Ms. Larsen’s 10th grade history class uncover  a  rare  photo. The picture is that of a Black male with chains around his neck, wearing baggy pants and  a scarf-like apparatus covering his head.  The caption beneath  the snapshot reads: This is the 20th century icon known in cultural circles as ‘Homie’ or ‘Home boy’. Looking at the photo prompted the  students to ask, “Whatever happened to the Home boy  Ms. Larsen?”

 

Sensing her students were genuinely interested in learning more about this relic, the teacher thought it was only fair that she  answer the question. “In 1987, during the waning months of  the Reagan Administration, America as a whole, suddenly became aware of  a group of young Black males who identified themselves by the slogan ‘homies or homeboyz,’ said Larsen. “Where did they live?” asked a student. “They were everywhere,” said the teacher. “Television, in newspapers, and in  the streets dressed in their official wardrobe: baggy pants, gold chains, caps turned backward  and armed with a dialogue consisting of  hoes, chillin’ and bit..es.

 

Shortly after Homeboyz became the phrase on everyone’s lips, the mainstream media picked up the name, and rap music took on a whole new dimension; invariably becoming the music of, by, and about the Homeboyz and their cultural woes.”    “What were they all about?” asked a  Black student, staring intently at the photo? “I’m not sure,” mumbled Larsen. “They said they were the result of America’s misconception regarding  young Black males. The Homeboyz remained a fixture until 2040 when rap music became passe.”

 

Fast forward  to the present---In analyzing the demise of the Homeboy, I’m one of the millions of African-Americans, whose life has been touched by this chaotic  mortal, borne out of  despair and frustration. My homie is a distant cousin who goes by the name of  T-Bo. His real name is Tad Bosford, but he feels  that T-Bo is more in sync with his “thug”  image than  the subdued Tad  monogram.

 

At 22, Tad, er T-Bo, is a college senior majoring in Computer Science, hardly your typical “Homie.”  That’s  why  Tad  insists he’s not hard enough.  However, when he goes out in  public, women clutch their purses. Not realizing that he is a gentle giant, whose desire to fit in with his contemporaries is more fictitious than reality.

 

One day while visiting Tad at his apartment, I sat through countless rap videos. As the 52- inch screen filled up with images of bikini-clad women gyrating unabashedly, I was preparing to ask him what he found so fascinating about this tasteless diversion,  when I was interrupted by  a knock at the door.  And judging from the look on his face, Tad knew the identity of  his visitors, but was reluctant to let them in.

 

To create the appearance that no one was home, he turned down the volume on the TV. Surprisingly, the more he turned down the sound, the louder the knocking became. Unable to stand the pounding any longer, Tad opened the door.

 

There they stood, three of the goofiest  homeboyz this side of  Compton. Looking at them, I could understand why predictions of their demise were imminent. Not only were they loud; they were rude, disrespectful and down right obnoxious. As the door swung open, allowing the men  to enter at  will, I heard one of them say, “Yo, T-Bo, wazz up?” “Nothing much,” my visibly annoyed cousin replied. Knowing it was common courtesy to greet people with a customary hello, I threw my hands in the air and gestured what looked like a wave.

 

Tad introduced his homies as Wack, a mathematical genius; Weed, a drug dealer; and Headquarters, an aspiring rapper. When another video with more “hoochies” came on; the boys went wild, with the exception of Tad. “Yo, T-Bo, check out the booty on that hoe,” said Weed. “Woo wee, baby got back!”  “Yeah and front too," said Wack, reaching out to slap Weed’s hand in a half-concocted high five.

 

Observing the  horny  spuddings  rubbing  their crotches, I quickly realized  why society is so down on the Homeboyz. Knowing this was my chance to find out what makes these young men  tick; I ventured into what I knew was dangerous territory. But to satisfy my curiosity, I was prepared to take that chance.

 

“Hey, I want to ask you  guys a question?” I said. “Yeah, what’s that?” asked Weed. “I’ve heard nothing but bad things about you. Now tell me what are  you   trying to do? And are you the thuggizzles that  everyone says you are?” In utilizing this form of slang, I was hoping that the language  used by rapper  Snoop Dogg would  cause them to open up. Luckily it worked. And the trio proceeded to give me a   rare glimpse   into the minds  of  the infamous homeboyz.

 

 “Those questions are easy to answer,” said Wack, hoisting up his pants, which were midway between his hips and knees. “The homeboyz are about chillin and  dissin. We are young bloods, and people have been on our case ever since we got here. Now all we’re doing is retaliatin.”   “Homeboyz is about expressing ourselves without fear or shame,” echoed Headquarters. “This is reality,” asserted Wack, referring to today’s problems. "War is real. Drugs are real. Unemployment is real.  Crime is real. Being poor is real. AIDS is real. Hoes are real. But people are pissed off  because  we represent issues they choose to ignore, or refuse to talk about.”

 

Weed, who had been unusually quiet, chimed in. “For a young Black man with no skills and no education, jobs are hard to find. So they have two choices: steal or sell drugs.”    “I understand all that” I said nervously. “ But don’t you see how you are influencing future generations to sustain this same sense of insecurity and hopelessness?“ 

 

“People think that just because we have a  biracial president in the White House, it causes society to look at us differently. But  the truth is,  as  young Black men  we don’t amount to crap,” chirped Tad, his voice teeming  with anger. “Everybody looks down on us, even our own people .”   “But Tad,” I said, trying to reason with him. “It sounds like you don’t care about anything.”   “You damn straight! We don’t care,” shouted Weed. Trying to instill in them that things weren’t  as bad as they seem, I said, “The one thing you have to remember, is, respect is not given freely, you must earn it. And secondly, you must respect yourself before others can respect you.”

 

Thinking, I had gotten through to them, I turned and saw Headquarters staring at me. “Well I guess that’s never going to happen, cause we’re young Black men. Who the hell respects us? After all, we’re  the original gangstas   of  crime, right?” I wanted to say no, but the  videotaped  image of,  Derrion Albert, a  16-year old  Chicago    youth  brutally beaten to death by  four teens  in September 2009, clouded my brain, putting a lump in my throat. Unlike the young  men  allegedly charged with his murder, Albert was a good kid  and a  honor student.  How pathetic is that?

 

As I looked into the angry faces of Tad and his friends, my mind drew a blank, as I rationalized that in 50 years, the homeboys  may  in all likelihood  become extinct. And in their places will be young men who will have learned the true meaning of life and all it symbolizes. Or will they?

 

While the homeboy generation may differ with the way society views their lifestyle; the fact remains that they are not rebellious   misfits, nor are they the by-products of  the self-indulgent  80s.  They are by and large, young men who have not learned to respect themselves, their race, their women, or their children. And that is a fact Black America must learn to grasp and come to terms with. Thus,  to the Homeboyz, I say, Later Homie. It’s Been Way Too Nerve Wracking.

 

 

 

* Not the subjects real names